Control Freaking Out

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ontrol Freaking Out

Scripture: John 11:4 (Message Translation)

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There is a control freak inside all of us. It manifests in control but it is really fear.

Fears Poll

-All of my friends are becoming parents and I feel left out.

-Depression, PTSD, medication issues, religious differences in family.

-Figuring out how to start life with little while being away from family.

-Imposter syndrome!! (many said this)

-Eating disorders, health, dating life.

-Health, fear of getting older.

-Budgeting.

-Finding quality friendships.

-Growing our family, dealing with infertility.

-Health, family, singleness, trying to manage it alone.

-Dating, the future, relationship with my family, stress about work.

-Unhappy with my work life.

-Feeling overlooked when it comes to professional opportunities and dating.

-Dating SUCKS, fear of not finding my true purpose.

-I worry about the timing of my life - will I be in the right place to have a fam before I can’t?

-Making new friends, creating a schedule, work ethic recognition.

-Fear of missing out

John 11:4 (Message)

4 When Jesus got the message, he said, “This sickness (Fill in the Blank) is not fatal. It will become an occasion to show God’s glory by glorifying God’s Son.” (Message)

5 Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. 6 So, when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was.

The love of God is not in question, and this an Occasion, not an Instance.

John 11:17-27 17 Now when Jesus came, he found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb four days. 18 Bethany was near Jerusalem, about two miles off,19 and many of the Jews had come to Martha and Mary to console them concerning their brother. 20 So when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went and met him, but Mary remained seated in the house. 21 Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you.”23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” 24 Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.” 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, 26 and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?” 27 She said to him, “Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world.”

This is a series entitled “Unraveled” we will let God develop something out of us. In doing so, we will rise above our circumstances, conditions, and questions that plague our Christian life many times.

I don’t want you to think of your life as an “Instance" but begin to think of it as an "Occasion." An "Occasion" takes planning, time to develop and ends up being a lot more beneficial than to just a few people.

Instance: It is an occurrence that takes place that people witness.

Occasion: Is planned, Deliberate, Not casual, Takes time, Has process, People are affected.

Let me give you some background on Martha.

38 Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching. 40 But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” 41 But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, 42 but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”

On the way to your “Occasion,” God has another miracle, and that is to make the "Control Freak" inside of every believer trust him.

Here is the thing about "Control Freaks" they hate circumstances - circumstances are things that happen out of our control.

John 11:14-15 14 Then Jesus told them plainly, “Lazarus has died,15 and for your sake I am glad that I was not there, so that you may believe. But let us go to him.” 16 So Thomas, called the Twin, said to his fellow disciples, “Let us also go, that we may die with him.”

God is always looking for an opportunity of a Miracle on the way to Occasion.

“Then Jesus became explicit: “Lazarus died. And I am glad for your sakes that I wasn’t there.”

WHAT!!!! Lazarus is dead, and Jesus was glad.

Control Freaks hate circumstances but create conditions - conditions are situations we get into by our own choices and decisions.

17 Now when Jesus came, he found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb four days. 18 Bethany was near Jerusalem, about two miles off, 19 and many of the Jews had come to Martha and Mary to console them concerning their brother. 20 So when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went and met him, but Mary remained seated in the house. 21 Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you.” 23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” 24 Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.

Look how Martha tries to control both sides:

1. Jesus is 2 miles off, and she runs out to him.

2. After she blows up at Jesus, she tries to control this new condition "But even now..."

Control Freaks hate questions - because they have to have an answer.

20 So when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went and met him, but Mary remained seated in the house. 21 Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you.” 23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” 24 Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.” 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, 26 and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?” 27 She said to him, “Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world.”

A lot of us cognitively say we believe, but deep down, our actions prove different. Martha had the same issue if look at the end of the account, Jesus addresses her.

40 Jesus said to her, “Did I not tell you that if you believed you would see the glory of God?”

Control Freaks hate critics - because they are never wrong.

37 But some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man also have kept this man from dying?”

Notice all the things Martha is trying to control:

Weeping Sister

Jesus

All her friends who were there

Now Jesus shows up, and crowds are there with him

She even panics because of the smell.

39Jesus said, “Take away the stone.” Martha, the sister of the dead man, said to him, “Lord, by this time there will be an odor, for he has been dead four days.

The great news is God will make the Occasion occur and change the heart "Control Freak" to trust "This sickness is not fatal. It will become an occasion to show God's glory by glorifying God's Son."

43 When he had said these things, he cried out with a loud voice, “Lazarus, come out.” 44 The man who had died came out, his hands and feet bound with linen strips, and his face wrapped with a cloth. Jesus said to them, “Unbind (Unravel) him, and let him go.”

Do you trust Him enough to let him unravel you from the things that are keeping you bound?